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24 September, 201624 September, 2016 0 comments Dating/Relationships Dating/Relationships

Hello all Members, including new ones!

Just a quick hello and letting you know there is a young adult gatheirng Scheduled in October 2016 that has been brought to my attention and we are pleased to post on our website.

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3 February, 20153 February, 2015 0 comments Dating/Relationships Dating/Relationships

Hello and welcome to all new members!

Well, it is that time of year again....Valentines!!!! I have read that this is the busiest time for people meeting up on line. Well, I hope that this  is true for traditional Catholics as well......I recently heard another subscriber has met on here and should be married by the date of this posting. That was fast! well, to me anyway, but this is again very good and encouraging to others. This particular fellow had just signed up within the last couple of years. I wish them all the best!
It should take a reasonable amount of time to date someone but we should not get into the mode of perpetual dating with no end in sight.The person we are spending one on one time with should be focused on not just on how much fun we are having or how good the food is (my weakness!), but on how well mannered and courteous the other person is and how that person reacts in certain situations. Would marriage to that person lead you on the path of holiness? Would this other person help you practice your Catholic duties and help you keep up on your prayer life? If there was a crisis, like an illness where you would not be functioning up to par, or there were money issues, will that other person be there for you and be a help to you in the practice of virtue and not give up when times are rough? Keeping a good temperament is also an important aspect in an relationship. Does the person you date loose his or her  temper? You don't want a person who is alway angry at you for this or that .....that may not be a good situation you want to be in for the next 40-50 years. How does that person view divorce? Well, divorce is not an option for Catholics . The plan on marriage is to last til death. We need to be reasonably sure we want to be with this person thru rain or shine when we say "I do." I remember asking our parish priest what he thought of my future  spouse and if this was the right choice. He assured me that is was a good choice and he saw no warning signs or reasons why this was not a good match. It is wise to have the help of a spiritual advisor who knows you and the one you intend on marrying, in order to make a wise life lasting decision. Of course, we do need the help of Our Lady and Our Lord in this whole process!

Good luck and God bless to all members!
Happy Valentines day!

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7 January, 20157 January, 2015 0 comments Dating/Relationships Dating/Relationships

Hello and Welcome to all new members!

I hope you had a very nice and holy Christmas and New Years. I spent the last three weeks with the in-laws in Virginia. They did not have any snow but it was nice just the same. I met some old friends I hadn't seen in a few years and got caught up on the news. I did not make it to midnight mass which I was planning on attending, but the Christmas day was very nice to participate at, and I wasn't too tired as it was daylight! ( I usually have trouble staying awake at night.)

And now it is the New Year..... did any of you make any new year's resolution? And I don't mean the latest diet plans.... How about meeting someone new in your life? Now that is a good plan. This website is a good one to get started on. I just got another note from a subscriber who stated she no longer needs this site as she is now engaged and planning to get married. Now those emails are the kind we are happy to receive. People are leaving contented but also it is encouraging to hear that our website is working. It also means that the Catholic traditional world has a possibility (God willing) of bringing new Catholics into this world. I encourage all members to take a proactive approach in the world of dating.

Has anyone read the booklet " Clean Love in Courtship?" I highly recommend it. It gives very good points on how to choose a marriage partner that can help both men and women alike. Courtship is not an end in itself but a means to an end....marriage. Here on this website, we can meet people, hopefully court someone, and thus end up in marrying.....

Happy New Year!

Melissa
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1 October, 20141 October, 2014 0 comments Dating/Relationships Dating/Relationships

Hello and Welcome to all new members!!!!

We are all into the fall weather, but so far it has been nice one! The color of the leaves are changing and although maybe some of you aren't, I am looking forward to Christmas and Thanksgiving seasons. Food, lots of it, and meeting up with family and friends is a great way to celebrate. I have  already been looking at airline tickets and where I should ring in the New Year, at home or on vacation. Emoji
This month is also the month of the Rosary. I hope you all are trying to say AT LEAST ONE ROSARY per day!  The fifteen of this month is also a special day for me as it is the day of my solemn engagement this day being the feast of St. Theresa of Avila, one of the Doctors of the Church.) If anyone out there is getting engaged, please consider getting a solemn one as it gives graces in preparation for marriage. It also lets people know out there that you plan to marry and are already dedicating your love to one special person in your life. You need a couple of witnesses for this to occur in addition to the priest, who also blesses the engagement ring. I like the manner of  how the man places the ring on the left ring finger.. He first places the ring on the left index finger, saying "In the name of the Father", then places the ring on the middle finger, saying ," and of the Son," and then finally placing it for good on the  left ring finger while saying," And of the Holy Ghost." 
anyway for those out there looking for love, when the time comes, consult with your parish priest about participating in the solemn engagement for betrothed  couples.
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9 July, 20149 July, 2014 0 comments Dating/Relationships Dating/Relationships

Hello again and welcome to all new members! How is your summer coming along. It is nice and cool in Washington state, but mostly likely warm where you are. Hopefully no tornadoes or strong winds!


I heard from a friend that one of our new members is communicating with someone, and she hope to meet him this summer. How exciting is that? She thought about joining earlier but with encouragement, she finally signed but only after thinking about it the past year. I certainly hope it works out if it is God's will. I mentioned this so those of you out there won't give up hope. It can happen.

How do people meet ? Well, lately , it has been online, mainly dating sites like eharmony or chat rooms. We can also meet someone  in our day to day encounters....at the coffee shop, in line at the bookstore, or even in groups after the Sunday mass. No matter how we meet, we need to have an open mind that maybe if we put ourselves out there, God will make sure that that special someone may fall right into your path. No joke. If we do our part, God will do the rest.

Well on line, meeting someone starts with a greeting or hello, maybe remarking on similar interests. From there, it proceeds to more notes, exchange of phone numbers. Skype can come in really handy if it is available. Then , if interest persists, the first meeting. This can be somewhat uncomfortable but if you have been communicating awhile, the uneasiness will pass quick enough. Meeting the family is next, naturally. You want him or her to see who you are and where you come from as this is a part of you. You would also like your family to provide you with prudent advice after meeting your new interest. It is hard to marry someone whom family don't approve or even never met. You would want your family's approval and parent's blessing. They in turn want your happiness , and will guide you with the experience and foresight that  they have. Don't ignore their advice but take it as your guide in picking your future mate.

Good luck, and may the Blessed Virgin be your light on this path of finding a new mate!
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16 June, 201416 June, 2014 0 comments Dating/Relationships Dating/Relationships

Hello and welcome to all including new members....

Well, summer is well on it's way. Many of those in college are either done for the summer or graduating. Congrats to those who are. Maybe some of you have met and are presently dating someone. If so, good luck and kindly follow the Catholic rules of dating.

If a man does not believe the way you do, please put this in consideration, as this will affect decisions made in the future. Divorce is never an option. If your fiancé  thinks it is okay, then it will be placed into perspective when difficulties arise in your marriage to him, and he may leave you for someone else. When you get married, you do say "until death do us part," and this does apply whether in good or bad times. A partner in life who thinks differently in one aspect of a Catholic marriage may think "differently" in others aspects, and it may not be readily visible initially and may cause future heartache.

Large gap in age has come up whether a marriage can be entered into or last.  I don't think it matters what the age, though you should be  of legal age and mature enough. It does help if  both parties are on the same page....think the same, expectations of each other are reasonable and expected. There are many other factors that need to be considered. Having good habits, good work ethics, a good job  (at least the husband), good prayer life, honesty and integrity and honor are all important things to consider and will help plan a very future life together.

So, lets keep some of these considerations in mind, and happy dating!!!!
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28 November, 201328 November, 2013 0 comments Dating/Relationships Dating/Relationships

Hello again and welcome to all new members!!!! Looks like from the news, there have been quite a blast of cold air, and people have been trying to get wherever they are going for thanksgiving. Hope you all made it! The holidays are a great time to have parties and meet new people. I just got a note from another couple who asked to cancel their membership because they had found each other and no longer need to keep looking. I believe they have already started a family by now. I just love these stories. Hope such luck will come to you as well.


Has anyone read those posts under the title Finer Femininity ? They have a few good articles about men and women and dating. One of the last ones was about admiring him. They stress the need to "listen" and let one know why or what you admire in the other person. A woman wants to be loved; a man wants to be admired. The blog also has a good article about kissing or not. Some people share a kiss on the second date. Some priests have different views, but I am sure all are aware of the dangers  of kissing and what affection can lead to (intentionally or not), and most  advisors steer away from promoting affection for prevention of problems of falling into sin. If a guy treats a girl with respect before marriage, he will likely treat her a like a queen after. Dating is not an "end in itself" and simply to  have a good time. It is to see if each other is a match, compatible, with a "little spark"  of attraction. This is why parents don't encourage early dating, as young people may not see marriage so near in the future and may only think of the here and now. So, let's follow the safe dating guidelines!

Again, Happy thanksgiving !!!!
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30 October, 201330 October, 2013 0 comments Dating/Relationships Dating/Relationships
Hello and welcome to all new members. This month is going by fast. This is for Catholics the month of the Holy Rosary. Hopefully we have been keeping up with that practice each day.

Now back to dating. There's tons of advise one can give out. Perhaps we can follow them. For girls, there are a few guidelines on the types of guys out there we just would not want to date. You don't want a guy that you think you can change. I have been told this before…" You can help this guy change if you go out with him; he Is interested in you." Rest assured, this is may not happen. He may say he wants to, but really? That takes work on his part and yours; maybe you will being doing all the work. Hey, a girls wants a great guy, not settle for someone to work on, right? You don't want  your guy to be a project.

You also want a guy who has some prayer life. If he keeps telling you  on a consistent basis that he cannot make it to mass or a rosary because he has other things to go, that should be red flag. He is either not interested or just not reliable. You certainly don't need a new stress in your life. He is like a guy who does not commit to anything, to you. Maybe he is just not that interested in you. Or maybe that is his character, and this can be lasting! What you do want is a guy who can communicate socially, but not someone who pretends to "fit" and be something or someone he is not. 

Good luck,girls!!
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27 September, 201327 September, 2013 0 comments Dating/Relationships Dating/Relationships

September newsletter

Hello again and welcome to all new members. This month we celebrated the month of Our Lady's birthday. What a beautiful day that was!

I was recently in ST. Marys, Kansas, for a wedding in the region. The fall colors are starting to come in, and I spent time in my friend's garden picking the ripened tomatoes, red peppers, and fruits. My friend makes some of the best salsa I have ever tasted! I was able to take some home and share it with others; boy, it did not last long at all.

Anyway, back on tract. Some questions have come up about how long one should spend on courtship. I think it depends; but not too long. There is no hard and fast rule set on the time. Time need however to be spent wisely to learn about each other's character and temperament well enough to be sure that a match is in place. This can generally be done within six to one year. The period of  time also depends on whether one is still finishing up school or trying to get a better job. You need to do well in your daily and present activities before focusing on marriage, otherwise  you cannot do as well in either school and starting a new job. On another thought, dating too early in life can lead to an early premature marriage . If couples had waited, they may have more life experience and social contacts to help them in their most important decision in life. How many girls have I met where they said they wished they would have waited at least a year before getting married.They did not take the time to mature, grow up, or do anything with their lives, so there is that feeling of "missing out" on something. The "happily ever after" wasn't all it turned out be. I have so heard that line "Is this it?"not so many years after; but by then, it is too late. You want to be certain of your choices, not have regrets.

 It is however  wise not to spend too much time dating or courting without a final goal in site. There easily can be moral dangers, but often long engagements do not end in marriage, or if it does, it end in unhappy ones. So, If you are courting or getting ready to, keep these few points in mind. It can help in the long run!

Melissa
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8 August, 20138 August, 2013 0 comments Dating/Relationships Dating/Relationships

Hello and welcome to all new members!!!!

Well, the end of summer is coming in view. I sincerely hope a few of you have made a few friends and maybe some lasting ones as well. Choosing a lifetime spouse is the most  important step in one's life if one is  so called to the married state. Therefore, it is with the greatest effort one makes the correct choice in a future mate. The right acquaintances and proper courtship is so important to pave the way to your future. Is is so important to be true to yourself. Use the advise of you parents, priest, and anyone close who has good common sense. Meet with people of good reputation and good prayer life. Check the persons character and personality and see if it matches well with yours. Check to see if the person interested in you has a unselfish disposition, a sound prayer life, and a charity that can be picked up by others.  See also if you are a good fit for the person you are interested in. If not, be gentle but end it for the good of both parties. Is is better to part early on than make the mistake of going thru life with the wrong person or being unhappy for the rest of your life or separate unfriendly. That is what dating is all about...to find out who is right for you. Courtship should be encountered with respect for each other and love of God. Be honest and honorable and always ask God and Our Lady to help you!

God bless!

Melissa
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