WHAT A GIRL WANTS

What type of guy are girls looking for? Girls will tell you they are looking for the "right guy" who ultimately will not leave them in the end. They are ideally looking for someone who will respect and love them as they would love to be loved and be able to portray that to others.

But oftentimes we see girls settle for just any guy for fear of being alone or fear of losing that certain person they are so desperately interested in. At times, they will do almost anything, even sinning, to keep in a relationship and find temporary happiness of which they hope it will last. There is no guarantee in any relationship that can secure it for sure, but there are some guidelines girls can follow in a relationship to see if the guy they are dating is spiritually right for them and moreover will keep them from having regrets now and in the future.

First of all, every girl wants LOVE. Isn't that what we live and thrive for?  We thrive on love. And we never want to have that feeling of being used, which is so commonly heard. One of the first questions girls should ask themselves should be whether this guy is interested in them or in pleasure of one's self. Does he want to do things that make you uncomfortable or does he respect your wishes? Does he really love me? What he says, "But everyone is doing it. Besides, I love you." What a shame. He certainly doesn't seem to want to please you or have any concerns about your feelings. This also tells her about the guy's character and how he will view you, if at all in the future or even with others. If a guy can't resist temptation now, I highly doubt he will when he is married; will he even be faithful? Also, if he can't wait to be intimate, then obviously it is lust, because lust can't wait but true love can.

Being physical with a guy is no guarantee that he will stay, much to the popular belief of many women. If a girl is suspicious that a guy will leave her unless he gets physical with her, then he is in it for the fun and can easily tire of her, and then it is onto a new women and new adventure. Maybe he is seeing more than girl at a time. Anyway, this guy is not for her. She has just been played.

In a relationship, a girl has a couple of options. She can give into the guy with hopes only that it will last combined with risk of being hurt, not to say she may be sacrificing her morals and ideals. Or she can follow her heart. She will do nothing that will make her uncomfortable or leave regrets. The guy will ultimately respect her, and even if he leaves, then he was not for her. Who wants a guy that is not for her and her wellbeing? I don't. Don't settle for lust. Pray for courage to do what is right, and ask for guidance from those you trust. Ask the Holy Family to help you. Grow in virtue. This often attracts the right guy and you will never find yourselves in the midst of men who don't feel the need to commit. If he occasionally disrespects you, then it is the highway for him and a new guy for you.

Well, I hope these guidelines help. Purity is important to grow in holiness and a very good prep for a good marriage in the eyes of God. The sacrifices we make before marriage will pay off in the future and get throughout our marriage life.