PROPER MANNERS AND ATTITUDES IN DATING

How should we act when we see someone we are attracted to? Obviously, polite but let's see if this person is available first. Is she seeing someone else? If so, keep a good distance on friendly terms. Even if she is dating someone you are not impressed with, keep your cool and distance. Be a friend. If the person she is dating is unkind to her, you may tactfully say she deserves someone better as she is a special person, but only broach on this if it is wise and prudent. Some people, especially with women can take such advice the wrong way even though it was meant for her best interest.  A person should never try to "steal" another person's girlfriend/boyfriend. This is simply not charitable. You can only wait and see how it turns out, treat this person with kindness, and pray for what is best in God's eyes.

Now, let's look at our feelings towards others. What if you have feelings for someone who is unavailable, married or seeing other people? Is this a bad thing? Just because you are attracted to someone does not mean you feel God must want you to marry or go after that person. It is in our human nature to be attracted to beautiful or beauty. Even in marriage, we can run into someone we find beautiful and this is normal .The important thing here is what we do with those feelings, how are we going to react. If we are married, we do not leave our spouse, but rather thank God we are living the life he intended for us. Put your trust in God and be content. The grass is never greener on the other side; looks can be deceiving.

In dating, we are committed to one person. If we do not think it will lead to marriage, then it is best to part ways and look elsewhere. Hopefully it will not drag on forever. Some people know on the first date that it will last. Others need a little more time, but not normally years. Communication is very important. Trust is a must! With online dating sites, it is very important to give a clear picture of oneself; in fact it is good to literally have a picture on line (on a proper dating site such as this one) so you can find a better match. A picture can say a thousand words. I personally like books with pictures, as it helps with the imagination; so to on line. A person will stop at your site more quickly and read your profile when there is a picture to go with it.

Until next week.

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