PHYSICAL ATTRACTION

Is physical attraction essential in a relationship?  Well, it certainly helps, and I would not date someone I was not attracted to physically. I'm sure God does not want us to marry someone we thought was ugly in our eyes. God wants us to be attractive to somebody if we are to get married. However looks should not be everything, as this will fade with time, and if you base everything on looks, there will be nothing left when it is gone. If you find your dates has an imperfection, you probably may become very disappointed, but look at youself as well.You likely have flaws too, and either didn't notice or won't admit to it. Everyone has some kind of defect. You will never find the perfect person, and if you do, you just haven't seen it yet. Looks can certainly be deceiving. A person can be nice to your face, but hide something underneath and you may not really know the person you are with. Unfortunately, decisions can be unwisely made when distracted by beauty and fun. A guy is wrong to wait for a hot babe without looking for some substance and integrity from such a girl. So too, a girl  should not take up with a hunk if she first does not check his character and morals. Proceed cautiously and find out the true beauty beneath the mask.

We also don't want the right person to walk by. That person might be just in front of you and you didn't notice as you were distracted by someone else or a passing fling. God will put the right guy or girl in front of you when He feels the time is right. I highly doubt you have to go far out of your way.

 Also, if the relationship is based on physical pleasure, the relationship will end when there is no more pleasure or it becomes lukewarm and cold. A relationship should be grounded on faith and morals; this way it will last as well as being very spiritually healthy. We need to be attracted to a person's soul. Look at the person's older relatives; your date is probably like one of them.

I saw a show recently where there was a contest for a beautiful person. People came well dressed or fancy dressed acccording to their taste, but what they didn't know, was that they were being judged not just beauty on the outside but more importantly on their inner beauty. For instance, were they honest when the cameras were rolling but they didn't know someone was watching? Did they help someone who was in need, by helping get the door opened for a old lady who couldn't, or did they assisted a person to find a lost wallet who needed help. Would they steal if it would help improve their chances to win? All these tests helped to eliminate the bad fruit from the good and end up with a person of true inner beauty.

So too, look beyond the initial attraction and see if this person is right for you. Is he honest, kind, and God-fearing? Does he or she have true inner beauty?