Friendly Advice

Often times we have close friends who get involved with "the wrong person" and wonder what  we can say or do to help them out. The question arises whether it would do any good or just let it play it's course. Timing can also be everything, as well as the type of person your particular friend assumes to be. A person's past experiences will also influence what decisions one may choice to follow, including good or bad examples presented to them by parents or guardians.

I've often seen young girls run to any guy,especially if she is from broken homes where there is no father figure. or is or feels ignored by someone who is taking her father's place. She has an emptiness in her life and she looks anywhere to get it filled. She quickly accepts the arms of older men to receive that missing attention, acceptance of who she is, with hopes of receiving adequate love and affection that will make her feel whole again.

What would you do if you were this girl's friend? Do you think it will last? I would say likely not. She will probably will go from guy to guy hoping to get fulfilled. She may have confused true love with physical affection from boys/men as the love she needs as she may never have been exposed to proper love and affection at home. Hence she may not know how to be treated right. She may even accept disrespect in order to get some kind of love or attention. If the guy suggests she move in with him, she may jump at the opportunity to leave her present situation of a broken family for one she feels needed and loved, a new life with just her and him. You as her friend must know that she must take a break from this guy and try to advise her with examples that living with a guy does not solve past problems nor sets the foundation of a respectful and lasting relationship. Ever hear the saying, " Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?" Why would a guy be motivated and honored to have this girl by putting a ring on her finger if he can have everything for free, especially in this economy?

This girl needs some space and time to make an informed and wise decision. You perhaps can be a willing adviser and provide her with a face of encouragement to wait for the right man who knows how to treat her right.Let her know that you truly care about her and want what is best while at the same time keeping God's commandments. Let's keep in mind that Jesus and Mary are always there for us no matter what type of situation