DATING TECHNIQUES

With the start of any relationship, the question arises as to where this is heading. Hopefully it is towards marriage as that is the main reason to date in the first place. It is very important to build a good friendship before proceeding to the romance. With new encounters, it is usually exciting and adventurious, and couples often spend late hours talking or texting on the phone or internet. There is so much to learn about each other, what interests, what experiences, what goals and ambitions, or what hobbies either has to share. Some couples dive into sports, politics, and even religion. Each other's spiritual aspects are also covered. Chastity will be a huge issue that will come up, and emotions can run very high; so both couples must keep themselves  in check as interests builds up. It is best to take one's time with the love game, so love can grow healthy at a good pace. Allow trust to grow and become strong.

Keep the relationship godly. Progress together without reprimanding each other, but encourage towards proper goals. Compliment one another. Can suggest going to mass together, or even holy hours as well as evening walks, going to plays, or involve yourselves in games. Occasional prayers for each are also good ideas. Say the rosary. Praying for the same intentions is another option.

Keeping the family updated is also a good move. Involving them is even better. Parents have years of wisdom and advice along the way. They may also see something in your date, whether it be a characteristic or a habit, to bring to your attention, good or bad, that you may not have seen or overlooked. Your relatives know you best. Your parish priest may also give some light on either party. Well, he should, since he may be at your wedding someday!

It is probably best not to verbalize immediately you want to marry the other person just after meeting them, as this can easily scare them away or cause panic if they are not emotionally ready. Again, the relationship should not move too fast. You certainly don't want to be a bother, and call so much that the other person either gets tired of you or doesn't have space to breathe. Give each other space. Respect for each other and show confidence paves the way for a healthy and progressive relationship. Get interested in activites and interests outside of romance, as this helps with self control and good discipline before and after marriage. It is still very true that men don't want an easy target as they easily get bored and move on, in addtion to losing respect for such women. It is also believed women don't want a guy with one goal in mind.

In closing, let's work to improve our lives living the commandments of God and kindness to our neighbour.