BREAKUP OR NOT: PART TWO

Well, to continue from last week, we were discussing if and when we should stay in a relationship and proceed to marriage. It does depend on the situation. Some women stay in compromised situations for fear that if they let him go, love is lost forever. But what kind of healthy and happy relationship are they hanging onto? Certainly the spiritual future does not look bright.

If there are serious issues on the part of either, these will not go away by the time marriage comes around. Nor should one plan on getting married just yet. If the other party does not respect the other when approached, then don't assume that will change in the future. If there is no effort to resolve major issues, then don't hang on too long for your date to change things for the better with a push from you. He or she should be doing this more so on their own drive and motivation, followed your encouragement and support.

In the end, whatever your decision is, it should be a solid one. If you go back and forth, that just prolongs the agony. If you decide to separate, either that person you are dating will come back if it is meant to be, or you will move on at a decent pace. One should not jump right back into the next relationship too quickly when recovery from the last one has not been completed. Nor should one take back the previous date too soon even if there are signs of change and improvement on the part of the date. It may just be temporary and not a true change of heart. Always, in these situations, ask God's guidance in making the wise decision, look for what you truly want in a spouse, realize the reasons you may have ended a relationship in the first place, ans stick to your plan to find the right spouse for you.

If either party decides to be just friends, it will be imposible if either one is still romantically attached to the other. Space is needed for now, and maybe there is hope for friendship in the future, but not the near future. The relationship will only drag out since we don't want to let go and this will destroy any  future "friendship" we can hope to have. Just let go.

Just keep in mind, Jesus and Mary are always there to help and guide you. Prayer will help us hear Our Lord speak. Live purely and keep an open mind to who is out there.