BREAKUP OR NOT?

This question can be applied to both parties while in a relationship and decisions are to be made. When does one know that one must and should break up with the person one is dating?

Well, for starters, we should ask ourselves a few questions that should have positive answers. In all cases we must ask if this relationship is bringing us closer to God. If not, it will not end up in a holy marriage. Can you see yourself marrying the other person? It really would help if you had some chemistry and common interests. However, one doesn't have to like everything the other person has interests in to make it work. Faithfulness is another question to ask. If one is not true to the persons being dated, very likely will not be in the future, as old habits die hard. Would he a good parent for your children and would you be happy if they were like him? again, these questions are very important in your progress of a future mate.

Between you and your date, does the other person help you to be the person you hoped to be? Are you happy about where you are at with your date? In other words, does he or she bring out the best in you? Would you say this relationship is healthy from all aspects,that being emotionally, physically, pyscologically, and spiritually? IS there respect for purity from your date? Does your date love God more than just having fun or pleasure in the moment? A good question to ask is if there are any bad habits, like alcoholism, drugs, or pronography interests. Those habits are both sinful but also hard to curb quickly. Your parents should also like the person, and your date should ideally bring you closer to them and your friends.

IF most or all of these questions produce a "yes",then there is no serios reason to break up. If you are still unsure, then ask the advice of family, friends, and especially a priest before making any important decision. If there are difficulties, this does not mean you need to break things off. It happens often for couples to end their relationships when things are hard. But this is where, if an issue arises, you need to decide if it can be resolved or does it merit an end to a relationship. Again, the advice of your confessor, or family, or close friends will help. If there is something you cannot deal with, you may have to walk away. But always ask God to help you. Turn to the Blessed Virgin in prayer. You don't need to figure everyting out on your own.

Sometimes, one does need time apart and this is okay. If this person is meant to be, he or she will come back to you.

Prayer is a great key in your decision making process. Use it!